In the 1.5 weeks preceeding last Saturday, I spent approximately 10 – 15mins with C alone. All other times he was entertaining a house guest, an old friend of his. They stayed up late at night together hanging out while I went to bed. When I rose the next morning to go to work C was asleep, so I wouldn’t see him until I got home that afternoon…when he was hanging out with our new house guest again.
To be fair, it wasn’t C’s fault. His friend is going through a rough patch at the moment and was very much in need of a friend. I was happy to have the friend here, and I never complained once. However, knowing that C would be away camping this week I did ask to make sure that I would get some alone time with him before he left. As it turned out the friend went home early Saturday morning, and I was lucky to get in some quality time with C over the course of Saturday and Sunday.
C arrives back home on Friday, less than 48 hours away now, and I can’t wait. Today I began planning a surprise for when he gets home (tweet 1, tweet 2) as I won’t be home until possibly 7 or 8pm Friday night due to a work function. During the course of talking to one of my other housemates (who in an unrelated story is now the recipient of a LOT of text messages from said house guest, although not quite a willing recipient mind you) I found out that said house guest will be back this Friday night.
The same day C gets home.
For fuck’s sake.
I don’t know if C knows if his mate is coming back again, as we’ve had limited conversation while he’s been away camping this week (reception is patchy). If he knows, I will have to tell him in the future that I would prefer if he kept me in the loop and told me when people were coming over. I would have also thought that C would let him know that we’re going away the following morning for the weekend, so probably not worth the visit. That may have been said, but the decision was made for him to still come, I don’t know. That’s the part I’m not liking much – not knowing.
I also don’t know if I’m being selfish or not. I understand that since I won’t get home until 7 or 8pm that night he has hours to kill socially, but as it’s my first day in seeing C since Monday I would really love to have that time alone. I also understand that we’re going away to spend the weekend together with some other friends, but that’s still not alone time. Plus it’s also not going to be the first time I will have seen him in nearly 5 days. Let me know if I’m being selfish or not, but if it’s the first time I’ve seen my boyfriend in 5 days then goddammit I want him to myself.
Now…feedback please. Am I being selfish? Is this something that I should be bringing up with C (something along the lines of “I actually didn’t want him here”). Should I just suck it up and put on a happy face when I get home on Friday? Should I bring it up with C via text before he gets home, just to find out if he knew (to be honest, I’m not a fan of the whole text messaging thing since C and I have a history of misinterpreting what the other says).
What would you do?
