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What happens on a second date?

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In 47mins I will be meeting a guy, nicknamed Copper, for our second date. He’s a really nice guy, and on our first date the conversation didn’t stop or reach any awkward points. We also found we had some things in common, and much to my relief, a love of sport was one of them. At the conclusion of the night we bid good night with a hug, and parted ways without agreeing on anything for a second date, although it was clear the intent was there from both parties.

During the week we chatted via text messages, while I bunkered down to study. In the end Copper proposed a second get-together to help celebrate the end of the term, my head relocating from the space directly in front of the computer monitor, and the liberation of my ears from the sound of my chemistry lecturer’s voice. Chemistry has finished, and now tonight is that second date.

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Online dating: prepared to make a fool of myself

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Here’s the thing – when I was in a relationship with the same guy since I was 15, I thought online dating sites were lame. Horrifically lame. A place where only the lamest of the lame congregated. People who can’t get a boyfriend or girlfriend because they’re either lame or have hideous facial deformities. Have I made my point yet?

Then I became single.

I’m at a point where I’m ready to try out the dating scene. It’s completely new to me, since the last time I was single I was 15, when it was still totally appropriate to get your friend to ask a guy if he’ll be your boyfriend. I daresay that’s not going to work at my age, and even more devastatingly, writing notes and passing them along probably won’t either. Thus it’s safe to say I don’t have a clue.

I also don’t do the clubbing thing, and most of my friends are married or at least in relationships. That’s a double whammy in my ability to get out to this theoretical “scene”, wherever it may be.

So put bluntly – online dating will be easier.

Am I the only one that shudders when the word “easy” is put with “online dating”. Urgh.

So I think I’ve finally decided to bite the bullet, swallow some pride and give it a crack. I don’t expect anything to happen from it, and I’m not in a rush to get into a serious relationship with anyone. I just think it’s time to find someone to have some fun with…that’s all. I don’t have the ability to just randomly ask guys for numbers, I’m not that courageous. I would much rather fall over in front of everyone and have a good laugh about it than get shot down in flames by some guy. Frankly, it’s easier to be let down when you’re hidden behind a computer screen than it is to get embarrassed in front of someone.

So now I have to sign up and write all about myself and how great I am, and basically convince them that they totally want to KISS ME RIGHT NOW! Yeah, apparently the dating sites use the term “kiss” to contact someone. Geez, way to move quickly random online dating site! Why not just make the button say “jump straight to sex because that’s all that you really want anyway, ADMIT IT”.

I think I’ll go sit in the corner now and feel lame.

**Update**

A thought to ponder. I’ve currently got my profile photo set to “request”, but wondering if I should put it out there for anyone to see. Problem is that I’m afraid of getting laughed at, and I don’t want anyone I know to see the page and laugh at me. Yes, it’s an insecurity thing…what’s everyone’s thoughts/opinions?